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If you know of any relationship

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that is not currently right,

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you are to endeavor yourself to mend it.

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You are.

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You're the one that's supposed to fix it.

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If we won't, if I know

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that something's wrong in a relationship

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and I'm like a horse or a mule

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that Psalm 32 says don't be that way -

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don't be stubborn and refuse -

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if I know something's wrong

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and I won't fix it,

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then I should stop

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expecting God to speak to me;

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I should stop reading books;

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I should stop talking about missions;

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I should stop all the talk

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and first get things right

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before I pursue anymore.

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If God's shown me something

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and I don't walk in the light of it -

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I don't obey what He's shown me -

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why should He say anymore to me?

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Why if He puts a finger on me

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about a relationship

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and I know it's got to be right -

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I know for sure

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if John Dees and I -

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which we've never had any of this -

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but if we had a dilemma 
in our relationship

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and we both knew something 
wasn't right between us -

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I had hurt him, I had sinned against him,

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or the other way around,

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and we both knew we were going to

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see each other today for the first time,

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I promise you,

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he would be coming to me,

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I'd be coming to him

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and we would get it right

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before we started singing, wouldn't we?

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How easy it is to come into church

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and a relationship not be right

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and then we want to sing the songs of God.

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If you come to worship

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and you come to bring 
your gift to the altar

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and there remember that your brother

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has ought against you,

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stop your singing, stop your worship.

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Go get it right and then come

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and offer your gift.

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How about it?

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Is every relationship right?

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You ought not to go to bed tonight

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without making sure of it

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because your bones might start rotting

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and your strength might start drying up

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like the heat of the summer.

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If you keep silent about it -

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it seems like we heard that not long ago.

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You see, what happens is -

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here's what we do.

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There's a problem in a relationship

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and we begin to rationalize and justify

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and make mental excuses.

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"Well, it will take care of itself."

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No, it won't.

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"Well, it will create more problems

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than it will solve if I go to him."

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No, it won't.

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"Well, it's just going to 
have to be that way."

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No, it doesn't.

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"Well, there's been too much time passed."

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No, there hasn't.

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"Well, there's too many 
differences between us."

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No, there are not.

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Maybe I've left out your excuse,

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but still the answer is

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it is always right, always right,

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to make things right.

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It is always wrong to leave a relationship

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damaged somehow.

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And the reason some true Christians

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won't get relationships right -

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I think there's three major reasons.

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Number one, it's too scary.

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It's scary to go to someone

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and say, brother,

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I think there's been something between us.

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It isn't right.

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I'm sorry. I don't want 
that to be that way.

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It's scary to do that, isn't it?

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It is.

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It's fearful.

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It's way outside some people's 
comfort zones to do that.

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It scares people to 
initiate making things right.

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Secondly, it's too painful to go

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and to say, listen,

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we've not been right in our relationship.

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It's too painful for some people.

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Thirdly, some people are just too proud.

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They want to leave it on the other person.

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The other person may not 
even know there's a problem.

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And you've wronged them,

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and you feel like you've 
sinned against them,

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or you feel legitimately 
that they did wrong you,

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but you're too proud to go.

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Too scared, too painful, too proud.

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And so you leave it undone.

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Listen, things undealt with

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will only do damage down the road.

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To hear the remainder of the sermon,

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search for "Every Relationship Right."